When it comes to women and their weight it is a very, very sensitive subject for any man to bring up. You see when your girlfriend puts on weight she notices it long before you do, so she’s already aware that she might have packed on a few pounds during the long winter months.
This means that if you’re going to talk to your girlfriend, wife or partner about her weight then you’ll need to do it very carefully, if you choose to do it at all. Let me explain what I mean by that during the course of this article.
3 Things To Consider When Trying To Get Your Girlfriend To Lose Weight
Telling Her To Lose Weight Or…
The very worst thing you can do to your girlfriend is give her an ultimatum to “..lose weight or else!”, because this can and will backfire on you in a couple of different ways. The first thing you’re going to do is upset her pretty badly, you’re going to damage her self confidence, she’ll lose whatever trust she had in you, and if you really hound her to shed those pounds she could quite easily develop an eating disorder that could kill her.
So now take a step back and ask yourself if your girlfriend losing those few extra pounds really matters so much that you’d put her life at risk? If you answered “Yes” to that question then I’d suggest seeking some professional counseling as soon as possible.
There’s a very strong chance that you’re probably at least a little bit overweight yourself, something which you girlfriend hasn’t nagged you about, women caring more about how you treat them then the size of your waist. So if you’re overweight it might not be a good idea to throw stones while standing in glass houses, or in other words it’s a bit hypocritical to complain about your girlfriend getting fat, when you’re not exactly svelte right now either. If you’re carrying at least a few extra pounds on your butt or gut (and most guys are) why not join a gym together – you’ll be amazed at how much you can motivate each other to workout harder than you would have done on your own?
The only legitimate reason for any man discussing how much his girlfriend should weigh is if she’s morbidly obese, and that her obesity is so severe it’s putting her life at risk. In situations like this getting your girlfriend to lose weight is not just for aesthetic reasons, but because you don’t want to lose her to any of the number of different health issues which obesity can cause. Again your girlfriend will already know she’s morbidly obese but you should still treat the entire issue with as much tact as you can. If you remember nothing else then tell her that you want to help her (showing you’re involved) to lose weight because you love her (reassurance that you still do) and that you don’t want to live without her (showing her that you plan a future with her).
Simply demanding that your girlfriend lose weight isn’t going to work most of the time, and even if it does she’s going to resent that you ever brought it up in the first place.
A better way to approach the idea is to suggest that you get fit together, but again this isn’t something you should be forcing on her.