My Boyfriend Will Only Marry Me If I Have A Job

My Boyfriend Will Only Marry Me If I Have A Job


I’ve had a boyfriend for about 3 years now, and he said that he does want to marry me but he needs to get to know me a bit more first. I showed him my identity card, but he said he needs to see my labor card, and that if I won’t show him my labor card then he won’t marry me.

Does my boyfriend really love me as a person, or does he just want a woman who’s working and earning money – if I don’t have work will he still want to marry me?



Hi Yana,

I have to admit that’s the first time I’ve ever been asked that question by anyone! I can’t think of any other reason for a man to want to see your labor card other than to figure out whether or not you’re working, and potentially how much you’re capable of earning. Any relationship that starts off based on money rarely ends very well i.e. it sounds like he’s looking for somebody to pay his bills for him.

Or maybe he’s worried that if you’re not working that you’ll be expecting him to care of you financially when you are actually married? Either way when it comes to getting married the last thing he should be asking about is seeing your labor card – it really doesn’t make any sense to me at all!

The other thing is that you’ve been dating for 3 years at this stage, so how much more does he need to know about you before he’s willing to marry you?

Yana this guy seems to be just a little bit obsessed with money, and people like that rarely make good husbands. If you want to get to the end of this mystery then simply ask him straight out why he’d refuse to marry you if he doesn’t see your labor card – it’s a very simple question, so if he doesn’t have a straight answer then he’s probably hiding something from you.

Let me know how you get on please – I’m intrigued to find out what answer he comes up with!


  • Babs says:

    It seems to me the relationship is bound for problems. If you can’t show him something you don’t feel is necessary then that’s a huge problem. I am glad you posted this because I will ask for all of these things from my bf, just to be my bf I want to know this stuff.

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