I've Not Had A Relationship In 17 Years…Where Do I Start?

I’ve Not Had A Relationship In 17 Years…Where Do I Start?



I’m trying to attract a man friend and am having a hard time doing that. It has been over since 17 years since I’ve been involved with a man, and I don’t have one like most other women I know.

Can you advise me?



Hi Chris,

17 years is a long time to be single and not have a relationship of some kind, so I can understand that you obviously miss having male company around you.

It’s difficult to give advice based on general details I can’t be certain of your age, although I’m assuming you’re in your 50s or 60s.

A “man friend” to you is as much about having companionship as it is about having a romantic connection so we’ll start there. The key to having a great relationship Chris is to have a great friendship first and then build on that from there – regardless of what age you might happen to be.

Another key to forming relationships with a “man friend” is to make sure that you’re in situations and environments which allow you to choose from different partners. So if you’re not already a member of a club, society or a charity of some kind that’s a great place to start.

It’s also really important that you don’t try to become somebody you’re not in the hope of attracting a male partner – remember that you want this man to love you for who you really are, and not some other persona you’ve created for him.

I’d be more than happy to give you more specific advice on how to attract more men into your life, but I’d need a bit more information about your age, your relationship background, etc. Once you reply with that I’ll provide you with a tailor-made plan for relationship success.


  • Mike says:

    I’m a wm and 50 years old. Let me try to add my 2 cents from that perspective. Don’t beat around the bush. He probably knows your situation of 17 years and he isn’t going to try to change it. If you have interest in him, just be honest and tell him. Tell him you don’t want to rush things and it may take a bit to get into the groove. Nothing like starting a relationship with openess , communication and honesty. It will carry forward

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