Relationship Questions And Answers

By Marlon Raye

Welcome to the Q&A section of the site where you can send in your relationship questions and I post answers to as many as I can, sharing my own experiences and knowledge of relationships with everyone here. This section of the site has grown from the number of emails I answer for readers on an almost daily basis, so I decided to share that same information with you here – with the permission of everyone involved.

Before we go any further though I just want to cover some basic “rules” for how this part of the site should be used. Please read the “rules” carefully though because I want everyone to be really clear how the Q&A section of the site works, and how using it properly will benefit everyone involved.

  • If you have a question please use the question form below and I’ll email you an answer as soon as is humanly possible. Please bear in mind that I run this site pretty much on my own, so it can take me a week or two to reply to questions if I’m really busy. On the other hand if you need an urgent answer please state that in the question itself and I’ll try to get back to you sooner.
  • By sending me the question in the question form you’re giving me permission to publish your question, and my reply to it, here on the blog, but only using your first name, or if you used a pen name I’ll use that instead.
  • Your question probably won’t be answered if somebody else has already asked the same question, or a very similar question, in the last few weeks or months. This section of the site can be a hugely helpful resource for you if you take the time to check through the answers archived here. There’s very little point in me answering the exact same question over and over again – plus it’ll be boring for you to read them.
  • Please, please, please don’t leave a question in the comments section instead of using the question form – I won’t answer any questions which have been deliberately left as a comment instead of e-mailed to me via the question form.
  • If you have something helpful and constructive to add to any answer I provide here then please do leave a comment adding your own thoughts or related experiences – I LOVE hearing from other people reading the blog but please keep your comments to the point and focus on helping the other person as much as you can.
  • This is a resource for everyone reading this blog to use, benefit from and even enjoy, so let’s do our best to respect each other’s opinions, help each other out and basically add some good to the world.
  • Anyone being abusive, hateful, threatening or basically being an ass will wind up getting deleted, blocked and banned.

So if you have a relationship or romance question that’s been driving you crazy why not get in touch today and I’ll reply as soon as I possibly can :-)


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Boyfriend Questions (42)

I Have A Crush On A Guy And It Could Ruin My Relationship

Question: Hi Marlon, I have a crush on a boy, and he likes me back. I like him a lot – and I mean a LOT. The problem is that I have a boyfriend but I am more crazy about … Continue reading

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Is My Guy Still In Love With His Ex-Wife?

Question: Hi Marlon, I’ve been dating a guy for about a year now and we’ve been living together for most of that time. He was hurt pretty badly by his ex-wife, who he’s been divorced from for over 14-years. He … Continue reading

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My Boyfriend Doesn’t Tell Me That He Loves Me?

Question: Hello, There’s something I need your advice on, if you don’t mind? I’m in a relationship with a boy, and we’ve been together through some of the most difficult times in our life, and we love each other an … Continue reading

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I Have A Crush On An Older Guy – How Can I Make Him Like Me?

Question: Hi, There’s a guy I’ve liked for about 4 years now, and because I’m so young this is the first guy I’ve really liked who isn’t a singer or an actor. Basically this guy is my first real-life “crush”, … Continue reading

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I Need To Know If My Guy Is Gay!

Question: Hi there, I find this whole site of yours really interesting to say the least, especially the blog post titled “How To Tell If Your Boyfriend Is Gay“. I’ve been struggling with the worry of my boyfriend being gay … Continue reading

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My Guy Isn’t In The Right Mood For A Relationship

Question: Hi Marlon, I hope this email finds you well! I’ve read, and really enjoyed, your blog posts and answers to relationship questions that other people send in – the advice you share with your followers is very interesting. The … Continue reading

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Is My Boyfriend Using Facebook To Cheat On Me?

Question: Hi there, My boyfriend and I both work together in law enforcement, so we obviously have a lot in common. I have a Facebook page with about 13 co-workers on my friends list, but he doesn’t have a Facebook … Continue reading

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Is It Really Over With My Long Distance Student Boyfriend?

Question: I dated my ex, whom I met when I was visiting family in Europe, for about 2 years. My family live in America however, so that meant flying back and forth every 3 months or so to meet my … Continue reading

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My Boyfriend Told Me To Stop Calling Him So Much

Question: Hi, My boyfriend told me that he doesn’t want a relationship with me. We’d only been seeing each other a very short time and he doesn’t like the fact that I phone him so often. He doesn’t pick up … Continue reading

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How Can My Soul Mate Fight With Me So Much??

Question: Dear “Guy” My ex took his brother’s girlfriend’s side, so I dumped him. I love him soooo much though, and just want him back. I regret everything I said during the argument. I don’t have money because I’m only … Continue reading

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I Need My Fiancé To Provide For Me

Question: Hi there, Where do I begin? My fiancé and I are planning on getting married next year, having been together for 6 years. We already live a “married” life because we have the bills, cars, dog, house and other … Continue reading

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Will My Bi Boyfriend Stick Around?

Question: For the last two years I have spent almost every single day with my boyfriend. About a month ago I decided to break up with him because I caught him chatting to some girls in real life. What made … Continue reading

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I Dumped My Boyfriend To Get A Reaction

Question: Hi, I broke up with my boyfriend recently partly out of confusion, but also partly because I wanted to get a reaction out of him. It totally backfired though because the way he responded was the exact opposite of … Continue reading

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I Took My Cheating Boyfriend Back…But I Still Don’t Trust Him

Question: Hi, I was dating a man for two years up until quite recently when a woman contacted me to let me know she’s been sleeping with my man. I was absolutely devastated to hear this, but I needed to … Continue reading

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My Boyfriend Will Only Marry Me If I Have A Job

Question: I’ve had a boyfriend for about 3 years now, and he said that he does want to marry me but he needs to get to know me a bit more first. I showed him my identity card, but he … Continue reading

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How Do I Get Him To Finally Commit To Me?

Question: Hi Marlon, I’m 25 and I’ve been dating a 37-year old guy for the past year, and he knows that I want our relationship to be exclusive. I’ve tried really hard here, but I feel like I’ve exhausted all … Continue reading

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Does “My Guy” Feel The Same Way?

Question: I’m going to school with this guy that I’ve really liked since last August – we’re always making fun of each other. It got to the point where people were asking if we liked each other, but he had … Continue reading

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My Boyfriend Wants A Stronger Woman

Question: My boyfriend doesn’t seem to love me anymore. In fact he said he doesn’t need me and that our relationship isn’t working, and that we’re simply not good for each other. Basically he’s told me he’s not happy with … Continue reading

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My Rebound Boyfriend Is Gone Again!!

Question: My boyfriend and I had been together for 2 years until he ended it around November last year. Since then I’d completely ignored him until he texted me in December, asking me to work on things with him, so … Continue reading

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My Boyfriend Won’t Even Look At Me – Help!

Question: My boyfriend told me that it was over and I was so hurt I went out and slept with somebody else. This was around the same time he told me he was moving to North Carolina, and I knew … Continue reading

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Breaking The Ice With My Good Looking Gym Guy

Question: Hi there, There’s a guy in my gym and he’s after catching my eye. Basically he’s a really good-looking guy and we’ve been making eye contact a lot lately. It literally happens every time we see each other in … Continue reading

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Is My Ex-Boyfriend Falling For Me…Again?

Question: My boyfriend and I broke up a little over 2 months ago and we didn’t speak after that until the day of his birthday when I decided to send him a very simple text saying “Happy Birthday”. He did … Continue reading

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Does My Ex Want Our Family To Work Out?

Question: Hi, My ex, whom I have a daughter with, broke up with me a few months ago, saying he doesn’t love me any more. He moved into his friend’s house while I stayed in his house. He does pay … Continue reading

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My Boyfriend Only Loves Me 50% Of The Time?

Question: Hey! Lately my boyfriend has been saying he’s in love with me but only kinda 50/50 in love with me. He’s already said sorry for some mistakes he’s made in the past, but now I don’t know what to … Continue reading

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God Has Told My Man To Be Unfaithful To Me?

Question: If a man has demonstrated the 5 – 7 signs which would clearly show he’s in love with a woman but he’s also made it clear he probably can’t stay faithful to one woman, what would you say if … Continue reading

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How Do I Win My WhatsApp Guy Back?

Question: Hi, I came across your YouTube videos on how to get your ex back and I was wondering if you can help me get my guy back? He was taking some university exams recently and said he needed space … Continue reading

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I’ve Not Had A Relationship In 17 Years…Where Do I Start?

Question: Hi, I’m trying to attract a man friend and am having a hard time doing that. It has been over since 17 years since I’ve been involved with a man, and I don’t have one like most other women … Continue reading

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My Boyfriend Is Still Supporting His Ex-Wife?!

Question: Hi, I’ve been in a relationship with a man for the last 4 years. I’m a widow and he’s been divorced for 6-years now after a 30 year marriage, and all of their children are grown up. My problem … Continue reading

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Does My Bus Driver Guy Like Me?

Question: Hi, I’ve found myself interested in a guy – he actually drives my kid’s school bus. When I heard recently that he was single I gave him a letter asking if he wanted to be friends. After that I … Continue reading

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We Broke Up A Week Ago…And Now I Don’t Know How I Feel

Question: My boyfriend and I broke up just over a week ago, with the reason being that I’m now in college and he’s still in high school. While I was away in college I kept hearing that he was flirting … Continue reading

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Why Is My Flirty Ex Giving Me The Cold Shoulder Now?

Question: I followed the “No Contact” rule for 30-days and then followed that up with talking to my ex for a few minutes every few days, but always cutting the conversation short saying I needed to go. Then last Wednesday … Continue reading

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How Can I Tell If My Online Lover Really Cares?

Question: I met a guy online that I really care about but I’m not really sure what’s going on with him. He talks about sexual stuff quite a lot, but talks to me about normal stuff too. He’s always giving … Continue reading

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My Overworked Boyfriend Doesn’t Want To See Me Anymore

Question: My boyfriend has been working from 6pm – 6am, 6-days a week for the last month and it’s now causing major problems in our relationship. The shift work he’s doing is only temporary but we’ve gone from being a … Continue reading

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Are Rules In A Relationship Really Acceptable?

Question: I’ve been dating a 42-year old man on and off now for the last 2 years. It was my birthday recently and the day before my birthday he arrived at my home with roses and then whispered to me … Continue reading

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How Do I Win Back The Love Of My Young Policeman?

Question: I started chatting with a guy about 2 months ago – he’s a policeman and he’s much younger than me too. But despite the age difference I started developing feelings for him. At first he treated me pretty well, … Continue reading

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How Do I Get Him To Spend All His Free Time With Me?

Question: I started dating my boyfriend about 2 months ago, although we’d known each other for at least a month before that. Right from the very start he seemed really into me, he said “I love you” first and wanted … Continue reading

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I’ve Fixed All My “Problems” But I’m Not Sure He Wants Me Back?

Question: The main thing is that I know what I did wrong – I was the classic clingy girlfriend who didn’t give my partner space and pushed him into taking the next step in our relationship, among other things. We’ve … Continue reading

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My Deadbeat Boyfriend Has Left Me…Again!!

Question: My boyfriend broke up with me again – he said he needed some space. This all came after I told him I needed a few days alone because I was depressed. Right now he’s saying he wants to be … Continue reading

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Does My Long Distance Ex Still Love Me?

Question: I was in a long distance relationship with a guy for 4 years, at least until he got a DUI and became depressed afterwards. Then to make matters worse he cheated on me and got the other woman pregnant, … Continue reading

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My Boyfriend’s Ex Is Living With Him And It’s Driving Me Crazy

Question: I’ve been in love with a man for the last 4-years and during this time he’s remained friends with his ex, who he had a 10-year relationship with. In my opinion she’s a very needy person who manipulates people … Continue reading

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I Cheated On My Boyfriend Twice But I Still Love Him!

Question: Me and my boyfriend were in a relationship for 7 months and we really did love each other a lot. For 1 or 2 months our relationship didn’t run so smoothly and during that time I did cheat on … Continue reading

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Does My Violent Ex Still Miss Me?

Question: I was with my boyfriend for a year and a half and things started to get a bit shaky between us. We went on a trip together to see if it would make us or break us. Well during … Continue reading

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Girlfriend Questions (23)

My Girlfriend Caught Me Chatting To Another Girl

Question: Hi there, I’ve been in a long distance relationship with a girl for about 5 months now, a relationship which started as a friendship and developed from there. We were a very happy couple, or at least we were … Continue reading

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Other Men Keep Giving My Fiancée Gifts

Question: Hi there, My fiancée is accepting gifts from other men and she thinks it’s ok. What do you think? Bill Answer: Hi Bill, It all depends on exactly why she’s accepting these gifts to be honest Bill, but from … Continue reading

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My Girlfriend Is In Love With Somebody Else – What Do I Do Now?

Question: Hi there, I need some advice on my last relationship which ended about two weeks ago. I’d been dating this girl for about 7 months, but we’d taken a break within the first month of our relationship, and one … Continue reading

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Can I Get My Long Distance Girlfriend Back?

Question: Hi, I am in a long distance relationship but I haven’t seen my girlfriend in real life for 3 months – before that we’d spent almost the last 6 months together. I’m an international student so I travel to … Continue reading

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I Don’t Know If I’m Still In Love With My Wife

Question: I’ve been with my “wife” for 8 years now and we have 3 beautiful kids together. My problem is that although I do love my wife I’m not really sure that I’m in love with her. I know that … Continue reading

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Will My Ex Give Me Another Chance?

Question: This girl and I were seeing each other for a few months, but we didn’t actually get to see each other more than once every 2 weeks. She told me that she wasn’t really sure if she could trust … Continue reading

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My Wife Is Leaving Me And I Have No Idea Why

Question: My wife is leaving me after 19 years of marriage. I’m being given reasons like “I don’t love you anymore”, and all the other clichés you hear in movies. We have 2 kids together: a girl aged 6 and … Continue reading

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I Don’t Need My Ex – I Just Want Her

Question: Hi there, I’m just wondering should I talk to my ex-girlfriend’s sister? You see I’m currently using the ‘no contact’ rule with my ex since we broke up. I recently learned she’s been seeing another guy since we broke … Continue reading

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The Girl I Love Is Dating A Sleazebag

Question: I’m in the middle of a pretty big mess right now and I need your help! This girl I know is seeing a guy who told me to my face he’s only interested in her for her body. Stupidly … Continue reading

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My Rollercoaster Ex Is Confusing Me To The Point Of A Nervous Breakdown

Question: After a 5-month long rollercoaster of a relationship my ex started playing mind games with me I think. I still believed she was “into me” though because she was showing me obvious signs of affection. On Valentine’s Day she … Continue reading

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Should I Send My Ex Flowers On Valentine’s Day?

Question: I’m a 52-year old guy and my ex-girlfriend is 47. About a month ago she told me she wanted a break after being together for 2 years.  Things we’re going too well between us, and I was getting a … Continue reading

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My Overseas Girlfriend Is Ignoring Me!

Question: Hi Marlon, I’ll keep this as short as I possibly can. I met this gorgeous German girl in October 2013, and we dated for 6 weeks in total. There’s an age gap of 7 years between us (she’s 18 … Continue reading

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How Do I Deal With Betrayal After The Relationship Is Over?

Question: Hi, I knew our relationship was over long before it actually ended. This was due to the fact that I simply wasn’t attracted to my girlfriend anymore, but hadn’t worked up the courage to actually make the break and … Continue reading

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Am I Chasing A Serial Dater?

Question: Hi, I’ve been following your posts and videos for several weeks now and I find them very helpful, and I have a question for you. Basically what’s bothering me is that my girlfriend broke up with me about a … Continue reading

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My Ex Is Constantly On The Rebound – What Should I Do?

Question: Hi, I’ve been watching your videos and I’m sure you’re very busy, and doubt you’ll even get a chance to read this message but I’m going to try anyway. I’ll try to keep it short and to the point, … Continue reading

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How Do I Make My Affair Work?

Question: I’m a married man who’s having an affair with a married woman, although this is her first time having an affair. We’ve very close and we’ve both agreed that we’re in love with each other. The problem for me … Continue reading

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My Girlfriend Wants A Break…Should I Break Up With Her And Beat Her To It?

Question: My girlfriend has just told me she wants to take a break from our relationship because she doesn’t know if she loves me anymore. This is apparently because of all the things I’ve done wrong, like not appreciating her, … Continue reading

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I Still Love Her But My Family Doesn’t…What Do I Do Now?

Question: I hope you can help me after reading my story! Basically around 2 years ago I built up a friendship with a girl I worked with. Now she was already in a 10 year relationship with her boyfriend, and … Continue reading

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I’m In Love With Another Woman – Should I Get A Divorce?

Question: I’ve been married for 19-years but in the last few years I felt there was no spark between myself and my wife. I do sincerely love my wife, but for some weird reason she feels more like a sister … Continue reading

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Is My Ex Girlfriend Just Using Me, Or Does She Want Me Back?

Question: My ex and I broke up 2 years ago. She’s moved on and sees other men. I haven’t moved on though. However, we are still good friends and go out regularly. We can spend the whole day together and … Continue reading

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The Woman Who Broke My Heart Is Single Again…What Should I Do?

Question: I am 51 years old, and was with my ex girlfriend for seven years, and she is also seven years my junior. I have never loved a woman so deeply, or with such intensity in all of my life. … Continue reading

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Should I Write A Letter To My Ex Before Moving On With My Life?

Question: Last year I met a girl at my job and within a couple weeks we started dating. For 10 and a half months, although most of it was long distance, we had an incredible and passionate relationship. However one … Continue reading

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She Already Has A Boyfriend…But Says She Loves Me

Question: I found a new girl who’s really pretty and I was talking with her on Facebook. She has a boyfriend, but she keeps telling me that she’s got problems with him. So we were talking about 2 weeks ago … Continue reading

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