It doesn’t matter if this is the first time you’ve dated somebody long distance or your fifth time doing it there’s always something new to learn. In fact if this is your fifth time in a long distance relationship there’s probably quite a lot for you to learn from this page to be honest!
Some people view long distance relationships as being extremely complicated, tiresome and just a whole pile of work, but they definitely don’t have to be. In fact following just a few of the tips I’m going to share with you here can make any long distance relationship far easier on everyone involved. These long distance relationship tips are for both men and women of all ages, so please do pay attention 🙂
4 Tips For A Healthy Long Distance Relationship
Manage Your Expectations
In an ideal world (and Hollywood movies) all romantic relationships flow along without anyone ever really getting hurt or upset for more than a day or two. In real life there are times when you’re going to be pretty pissed off that the person you love is living so far away but you need to accept that and make it part of your life. There will be bumps on the road to long-term romantic love, but as long as you see them for what they are – just bumps – then you’ll be fine!
Probably the most stressful part of being in a long distance relationship is traveling for hundreds, maybe thousands, of miles to visit your partner and then by the time you get there you’re so exhausted you wind up sleeping most of the time, or just not being a lot of fun. Instead of constantly traveling backwards and forwards to meet each other why not compromise and pick a city or town at some halfway point between you? This removes a lot of travel and time pressure from both of you, and also gives you the opportunity to spend more time together in a different town or city, so it’ll feel like a mini vacation too!
One of the best tips I can share on managing any long distance relationship is to communicate often and honestly, but not to the point where you drive the other person crazy. Remember that as much as you love each other there’ll be some days when you simply don’t feel like talking to anyone, which is just human nature – we all go through days like that. Also do your best to avoid only using just Skype or text messages to stay in touch – mix it up with phone calls, emails and any other legal forms of communication you can think of. Everyone needs their own personal space from time to time, so bear that in mind too.
Without trust any relationship is doomed, and when it comes to long distance relationships you’ll have to up your trust factor that bit more to make it work. It’s all too easy to imagine that your boyfriend or girlfriend is being unfaithful to you because of the distance, but that’s very rarely the case. In fact one of the main reasons why long distance relationships fail is that paranoia sets in, and that in itself drives a wedge between couples – the fear and suspicion that your partner is being unfaithful, when they’re not even remotely interested in anyone else except you.
You’ll need to trust each other quite a bit to make a long distance relationship work, which is why the open, honest and frequent communication is so important – it gives you a “forum” to say what’s on your mind and allow your partner to reassure you that they do still love you, for example.
These tips will help you get over most of the emotional and psychological hurdles you’ll face with any long distance relationship but I’d love to hear any tips you personally use to make your own long distance relationships work – just leave a comment below and I’ll get back to you.