So you cheated on your girlfriend and she found out and now you’re in a very tricky situation and you’re wondering how to get your girlfriend back after you cheated on her – which was a pretty dumb thing to do in the first place. Really the first place you need to start is figuring out why you cheated on her and understanding what caused that to happen in the first place.
There are two realities here in terms of cheating with the first being that you were drunk and you don’t even remember cheating, although that’s not really an excuse. The second is that you deliberately set out to cheat on her in a totally sober state, in which case you have a lot of soul searching to do.
Cheating isn’t always a malicious act on the part of the guy who does it because, contrary to popular belief, men are emotional creatures too and the act of cheating means that he feels something is missing in the relationship. Or maybe even just that he’s paranoid about his girlfriend cheating on him and is doing a “pre-emptive cheat” to not feel hurt by her/you cheating on him – human psychology is a minefield at the very best of times.
So if you’ve cheated on your girlfriend how can you fix it?
3 Step Guide To Get Your Girlfriend Back After You Cheated
You can skip all the excuses you’ve come up with to try and make this okay with your ex because she’s probably heard them before from other guys in her past. Some guys make the mistake of trying to turn the tables and make their girlfriend feel somehow guilty for the fact that he cheated on her. That’s not a good move. What is a good move is being genuinely honest with about what went down while making an effort not to hurt her any more than you already have. If nothing else she will appreciate your honesty even though it might take her a while to accept it.
Give Her Space
As much as you’ll want to spend every waking moment with your girlfriend to show her how sorry you are that’s probably just going to annoy her – every time you touch her will remind her that you’ve just cheated on her. So instead of crowding her why not give her some space instead to figure out how she feels and let her get things straight in her head.
Do Not try to influence her at this point because I can pretty much guarantee that will blow up in your face. Be there for her and if she needs to yell at you (without violence) to get it out of her system then so be it – you asked for this by cheating on her remember?
Infidelity was her biggest fear so you need to make sure that she now trusts you again 100% and the only way to achieve that is by being 100% consistent with her in everything you do and say. You can forget about blowing her off for a football game or disappearing out for a night drinking beer with the guys. Everything you do and say around her for the next few months needs to demonstrate to her that you truly regret what you did and you are genuinely doing everything you can to make things right with her.
There is no magic button you can push for how you can get your ex girlfriend back after you cheated on her, even though that’s probably exactly what you’re looking for. If you want some further guidance on the topic then why not check out “The Magic Of Making Up” by T. Dub Jackson – you’ll find all the wisdom you’ll probably need in this relationship advice guide.