Usually when a guy breaks up with a girl it’s more of a knee-jerk reaction then a well considered move that he’s thought about for several weeks. Now some guys will obviously think things through before they decide to break up with a girl but that’s rarely the case. Of course male pride kicks in then and even though he probably misses you like crazy he won’t want to look weak by asking you to get back together with him.
Or maybe you broke up with him and now you realize that you’ve made the wrong decision and want him back? In either of these cases the tips I’m going to share with you here are going to be very important.
Give Him A Chance To Miss You
If you’re doing your very best to spend as much time as possible around your boyfriend he’ll never have a chance to miss you, so it’s important that you put some distance between you both. In fact I’d go so far as suggesting that you take a vacation with some of your friends so that you can get some real space and time to think and sort your own emotions out; you’re probably an emotional mess but you don’t even realize it.
Don’t Make Him A Priority
You’re no longer in a relationship with your boyfriend so it’s important to remember that your role has now changed too. This means that you shouldn’t go running to him every time he calls you or meet up with him when it suits him but never when it suits you. Also make sure that you don’t slip into “booty call” territory unless you’re absolutely sure that’s what you want in the first place – it rarely works out by the way. Now that you’re single it’s time to put yourself first and live your own life.
Have A Social Life
Hiding away from your friends, family and co-workers isn’t going to help even though that’s exactly what you want to do. It’s important that you get out there and socialize with people and try to enjoy yourself even a little bit. Sitting at home and moping around staring at pictures of him won’t do you any good at all, whereas getting out for a few drinks, a meal or a movie with friends will do you the world of good.
Don’t Try To Make Him Jealous
If you decide to flirt with other guys in front of him this is going to end in disaster for both you and the guys you’re flirting with because making an ex boyfriend jealous is the quickest way to cause a fight between two guys. Your ex will also think you’re just looking for a cheap “date” and you won’t have done yourself any favors in his eyes.
By this I don’t mean that you need to lose 20 pounds or get an incredibly buff body but you need to maximize all your plus points when it comes to how you look and how you dress. This is also a very quick way to get your self-confidence back and this is something your ex will also pick up on.
Learning how to get your ex boyfriend to miss you is a simple matter of just being yourself and getting back to the life you had before him. Once he realizes that you can live without him he’ll be tripping over himself to get back in contact with you. You could also try using some tips from the “Text The Romance Back” guide by Michael Fiore in terms of getting your ex to pay attention to you again.