The first thing we need to be clear about here is that there are no guarantees when it comes to getting back together with an ex boyfriend – even with my expert and time-tested advice. Of course using the advice I give you here will vastly improve your chances but sometimes relationships end because they’re run their course and getting back together might actually be a bad idea.
Basically not every couple belongs together and when it comes to you wanting to get back together with your ex it might be a good idea to look at your motives for doing that.
What I mean by this is do you genuinely feel like you’re meant to be with your boyfriend for life or do you want to get back together because you’re used to being with him? Or do you want to get back together because you’re either afraid of being single or you just want to make sure that nobody else can have him, even when you’re not 100% sure you actually want him yourself?
If you wind up using my advice to get your ex boyfriend back as fast as possible and you’re doing it for the wrong reasons you could find that you’ll wind up breaking up again in a few weeks time.
So how do you get an ex boyfriend back fast? What are the “Dos” and “Don’ts” of this whole process?
5 Tips On How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back Fast
1. Don’t Chase
This is an urge you’re probably going to have to fight pretty hard but you definitely don’t want to get into “stalker” mode and start chasing the guy all over the place. This also includes going to places where you can “accidentally” bump into him all the time – your ex will know exactly what you’re doing and he’ll get tired of it very fast. Give him time and space to miss all the things he loves about you.
2. Positive Thinking
Even if you’re not a fan of the idea of positive thinking it’s important to use it after the breakup and during your efforts to get him back.
You see if you’re going around thinking nothing but negative thoughts it will just make you give off a weird “vibe” that your ex boyfriend and other men will pick up on – you’ll simply be less attractive because of all the negative energy you’re generating.
If you work to have a positive outlook on your life and your relationships you’ll generate positive energy and you’ll find that you simply either attract your ex boyfriend back or you’ll attract other men into your life who want to be in a long-term relationship with you.
3. Don’t Use Guilt
Most women don’t understand that men are emotional creatures too and when they’re hit with an assault of emotional blackmail of any kind it will wind up hurting them but it will also make them want to stay as far away from you as possible. If you do have children with your ex then never, ever, ever use them as emotional currency to win any argument or to guilt-trip your ex boyfriend into getting back together with you.
4. Don’t Use Jealousy
Most women think that making your ex jealous is a good idea but never use other guys to make your ex feel jealous. This can cause an aggressive response both with your new “boyfriend” and your ex because chances are you’re going to meet them in a public place like a bar or restaurant.
Playing mind games with an ex boyfriend is the exact opposite of sexy and the real risk here is that it could drive your ex boyfriend away forever.
5. Be Who They Miss The Most
One of the biggest tips I can give you to getting your ex boyfriend back really quickly is to be all the things he misses and loves about you. In the middle of a heated argument you’ll find that things are said that you always regret and it’s also easy to forget how much you love the other person. Showing him that you’re still the girl he fell in love with all those months or years ago is sometimes enough to get him to realize that getting back together with you is a good idea – and he’ll be the one doing the chasing.
In short being attractive and fun will help you get your ex boyfriend back but being mean, nasty, argumentative and vengeful will make sure he never wants to speak to you again.
I’ve given you my favorite tips on “how to get your ex boyfriend back fast” but it’s up to you to put them into play to help you rebuild your relationship with your ex.