Male pride is a terrible thing so if and when you cheat on a guy and get caught don’t expect to solve this problem overnight. Cheating in a relationship is never a good thing and is usually a sign that something in the relationship itself is not working; or at least that’s true in 99% of cases. You then need to factor in that some people are just perpetual cheaters and they’ve cheated on every single boyfriend they’ve ever had.
So before you try getting your ex back after you cheated on him it would be a good idea to spend some time with yourself to figure out why you did what you did. Have you, for example, cheated on other boyfriends in the past and if so why did you do that? Until you understand your motivation for cheating then you’re really just putting a band aid over a large wound and hoping it won’t open up again.
If on the other hand you had a moment of weakness where you did something you instantly regretted then the sooner you start working to put things right the better. Firstly it’s unlikely that you admitted to cheating (if you did then kudos to you), so your boyfriend either caught you in the act or found out through friends. You need to put yourself in his boots and imagine the kind of hurt he’s feeling right now and how much you’ve damaged the trust between you, it’s only then you should take the next steps.
3 Crucial Steps To Get Your Boyfriend Back After You Cheated
There’s a huge difference between saying “I’m sorry” and actually meaning it so when you apologize to your ex boyfriend for cheating on him you need to make it as heartfelt as possible and show him that you genuinely mean it. If you do not feel sorry for what you did then don’t attempt to apologize – your ex will see right through what you’re trying to do.
2. Admit Fault
You were caught doing something wrong so it’s important that you acknowledge that to your ex boyfriend and show him that you really do understand that what you did was hurtful, insulting and was a betrayal of trust. Just blurting out “I was wrong” isn’t going to cut it – you’re going to need to put some real effort in here.
3. Fix It
Most people figure out the first two parts of this process on their own but very few make it to #3 which is the key to getting him back. Once you’ve apologized and admitted fault for what you did you then need to explain what you’re going to do to set things right – quit drinking, quit doing weed or whatever it was that put you in that compromising situation in the first place. Then actually follow through on your promise ladies!
Getting back together after cheating has taken place isn’t going to be easy but it is possible and the key to making it work is to not behave like a spoiled child and try to blame somebody else. Acting like a grown woman and ultimately accepting responsibility for what you did is what will set you apart from all the spoiled brats that try to guilt their ex boyfriends into taking them back. Be a real woman – he’ll love you all the more for doing that.
If you want some additional tips and advice on getting your boyfriend back, even after you cheated, then you should read “The Magic of Making Up” by T.W Jackson – you’ll be glad you did.