Sometimes relationships come to a natural end where both people expect it to happen, and to a certain extent are almost relieved when it does happen. For other women sometimes the end of a relationship comes as a complete shock to them and they simply weren’t prepared to become single so quickly and with so little warning. Regardless of the reason for why you find yourself single right now the problem is the same – you need to find a way for you to get over your ex boyfriend and put your life back together.
I’m going to share some important tips with you here that should help you along on your journey to feeling okay about yourself and life again.
Now this might sound like the world’s greatest case of stating the obvious but allowing yourself to grieve is a big step. If that means having a screaming fit or just crying until you physically can’t cry anymore then that’s exactly what you need to do. Suppressing emotions in an effort to appear strong might seem like a good idea but ultimately those negative emotions will fester inside you and come back to haunt you in later relationships.
Give Yourself Time
Friends and family might say things like “You’ll be okay again in 2 or 3 weeks” but the reality is that everyone reading this is different and your recovery time is going to vary too. Some people can get a breakup out of their system in a week or two but with any kind of long-term relationship allow yourself 2 – 3 months to come to terms with what happened. If you get back to normal sooner than that then that’s awesome but in the meantime you give yourself as much time as you need – it’s that simple!
Some women are prone to falling in “love” immediately after a breakup but see this for what it really is – not wanting to be alone. Nobody enjoys being alone all the time and every human wants company and love but achieving that through a rebound relationship is a bad idea in 99.9% of cases. You’ll either emotionally hurt yourself even more than you are right now or you’ll hurt an innocent guy who genuinely cares for you and might have become a long-term boyfriend if you’d only waited a little while longer before going out looking for a relationship again.
If your ex boyfriend hurt you either before or during the breakup then it’s important to forgive him for what he did, although that might seem impossible, but you do need to try. Even if your ex boyfriend has done nothing “bad” you still need to forgive him for his part in the breakup of the relationship because it always takes two people to both make and break any relationship. In the same way that you forgive him you also need to forgive yourself and let go of any guilty or negative feelings you might have in relation to the end of your relationship. You’ll be absolutely amazed at the power of forgiveness ladies!
Getting over a breakup always takes time and time, as they say, is a great healer and I’ve always found this to be true.